Monday, March 29, 2010
5 Steps to Better Sex
Now that you're married, do you find yourself settling into a newlywed routine where you're just too busy to get busy? These tips will help you get in the love groove.
1. Talk It Out
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship -- and a healthy sex life. Don't be afraid to discuss career gripes (he works late nights); family (she wants to spend the holidays with her parents 3,000 miles away); money (juggling shared debt). If you can talk about these things, you'll spend fewer nights huffing and puffing with your backs turned to one another and more time backing each other up against the bed or fridge, huffing and puffing.
2. Get in the Mood
How can you expect to go from zero to 60 without a little warm-up? Half of enjoying nooky is knowing how to rev each other's engines first. Have a picnic in bed with fresh fruit, chocolates, cheese, and wine. Buy a sexy lampshade for the bedroom that induces a romantic vibe. Or just take a bubble bath together. Reinforce your steamy night by writing your spouse a note the following day saying, "Last night was the best three hours we've spent together since the honeymoon."
3. Get the introduction
Make your partner horny while he/she is still at work. No, no, enough of boring sms messages...Use your webcam device! Works our 100 times better;) However, dont let bad quality to destroy the pleasure. Make sure you choose a site of high quality service. Make your sex partner enjoy again!
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3. Be Spontaneous
Post little love notes all over the place where they'll least expect it (in his sock drawer, in her makeup bag); graze his thigh under the table at your own dinner party and ask him for help in the kitchen where you'll douse him with kisses; or, excuse yourself from the Sunday night home movie you're watching, pretend to get a glass of water, and come back to your partner completely naked as if nothing has changed.
4. Have Happy Hours for Two
Commit to doing stuff together outside the bedroom and before 11 p.m. on a daily basis. If you two are always pulling out your BlackBerrys and checking your schedules against one another, consider making a weekly date night: Tuesdays, for example. Every week, that night is for you two and nothing else. And you'll get bonus points for the little things too: going to bed at the same time; slow dancing...naked; taking a yoga class together; or simply indulging in a session of long, passionate kissing.
5. Position Yourself
How can you be bored with sex when there are 600 positions in the Kama Sutra to test out? That's nearly three new positions every week for the first four years of your marriage! Pick up a copy and have fun with it. You don't have to twist yourself into a pretzel every night, but it's important that your sexual energy doesn't go flat. So switch it up and let go of your inhibitions. One night a week, take turns closing your eyes and pointing to a page. Practice makes perfect!
DIRTY SEX GAMES
This might be hard to believe, but it's actually possible to make your sex life even hotter. The key: fun sex games.
1. WebCam Chat!
Get naughty with your partner using your webcams! Thrilling and and totally different sensations! However, dont let bad quality to destroy the pleasure. Make sure you choose a site of high quality service like . Make your sex partner enjoy again!
2. Truth or Dare
Write out five dares -- anything from trying on a sexy outfit to a silly stunt -- on separate pieces of paper. Place them in a bowl. Now take turns asking each other naughty questions, such as, "What's the most unusual place you've ever wanted to have sex?" If you don't answer, dip into the pot and select a dare.
3. Forfeit
Bring treats into the bedroom that have small, easy-to-write-with nozzles, like frosting, chocolate sauce, and whipped cream. Write a naughty word on your partner's body. If they guess the word correctly, they get a small taste of the treat. If they guess wrong, they pay a forfeit by swapping places with you.
4. Wish List
You both think of three sexual things you've always wanted to try and then write them down on separate pieces of paper. Fold them (marked with your initials) and mix 'em up. Take turns drawing out one of the other's wishes, agreeing in advance to at least give it a try.
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5. Strip Poker
Poker's all the rage these days; now make it spicy. The loser bares all, and the winner sees all. If you're not poker fans, you can do this with any card game of your choice. You could even try strip chess, strip Monopoly, whatever. Once one of you has stripped completely, the lovemaking begins with the winner choosing the position.
6. What Is It?
Your partner lies down blindfolded. You lubricate different parts of your body -- fingers, chin, tip of the nose, nipple, and so on. You then touch your partner in various places. They have to guess which body part it is. If they guess correctly, you perform a sex act with that body part that only pleases them.
1. WebCam Chat!
Get naughty with your partner using your webcams! Thrilling and and totally different sensations! However, dont let bad quality to destroy the pleasure. Make sure you choose a site of high quality service like . Make your sex partner enjoy again!
2. Truth or Dare
Write out five dares -- anything from trying on a sexy outfit to a silly stunt -- on separate pieces of paper. Place them in a bowl. Now take turns asking each other naughty questions, such as, "What's the most unusual place you've ever wanted to have sex?" If you don't answer, dip into the pot and select a dare.
3. Forfeit
Bring treats into the bedroom that have small, easy-to-write-with nozzles, like frosting, chocolate sauce, and whipped cream. Write a naughty word on your partner's body. If they guess the word correctly, they get a small taste of the treat. If they guess wrong, they pay a forfeit by swapping places with you.
4. Wish List
You both think of three sexual things you've always wanted to try and then write them down on separate pieces of paper. Fold them (marked with your initials) and mix 'em up. Take turns drawing out one of the other's wishes, agreeing in advance to at least give it a try.
Read More
5. Strip Poker
Poker's all the rage these days; now make it spicy. The loser bares all, and the winner sees all. If you're not poker fans, you can do this with any card game of your choice. You could even try strip chess, strip Monopoly, whatever. Once one of you has stripped completely, the lovemaking begins with the winner choosing the position.
6. What Is It?
Your partner lies down blindfolded. You lubricate different parts of your body -- fingers, chin, tip of the nose, nipple, and so on. You then touch your partner in various places. They have to guess which body part it is. If they guess correctly, you perform a sex act with that body part that only pleases them.
weekend sex
What is the time we all have the greatest sex experience? Weekend, for sure! Well, sometimes not the best, but the biggest at least ;)
This weekend was explosive! I really have something to remember...Good that it was raining like hell and I was forced to stay at home. Webcam saved me again! Poeple, thats amazing! have you ever dreamt of instant sex with a stranger you just saw? Well, it is like that in here!
I chatted with 3 guys on friday and had three massive orgasms...new sex partners make me sooo exited ;)
Whos the next? Tonight I am here: http://tinyurl.com/ydbha4f. Registration is free and the quality is amazing. I think I saved lots of cash this weekend - all the time in here forgetting even about the food ;)
This weekend was explosive! I really have something to remember...Good that it was raining like hell and I was forced to stay at home. Webcam saved me again! Poeple, thats amazing! have you ever dreamt of instant sex with a stranger you just saw? Well, it is like that in here!
I chatted with 3 guys on friday and had three massive orgasms...new sex partners make me sooo exited ;)
Whos the next? Tonight I am here: http://tinyurl.com/ydbha4f. Registration is free and the quality is amazing. I think I saved lots of cash this weekend - all the time in here forgetting even about the food ;)
SEX TOYS: VIBRATORS
Sex toys have been around for at least 2,500 years. Dildos were popular in Ancient Egypt, and even the Romans were known to make large penis-shaped candles. Adult toys have come a long way since then. Nowadays the variety of sex toys on the market is huge and you'll want to experiment to find the right one for you. If you're new to the world of vibrators, there are two main types: the battery-powered dildo, which is penis shaped and designed for insertion, and its smaller counterpart that's designed solely to massage your clitoris.
My first exposure to the latter type occurred when my friend Kirsty dropped in from New York. All she could talk about was the new vibrator she'd acquired. 'I've discovered my clitoris,' she crooned, and took the object of her newfound pleasure out of her bag.
I was expecting to see something that resembled a super-sized frankfurter, but instead I was confronted with an object smaller than a remote control, topped by three ball bearings that rotated to a low hum when switched on. 'It's not for insertion,' Kirsty warned. 'You just run over the - um - sensitive parts, and you orgasm in seconds. When I first got it I didn't leave my bedroom for three days.' Fortunately, her new little friend doesn't look like a conventional sex toy, which was an advantage when Kirsty left it out by her hotel bed. 'I would have been so embarrassed if the hotel maid had found something looking like a dismembered penis on my bedside table. Instead she probably thought it was some sort of muscle relaxant.' Right Kirsty.
Some vibrators provide an extra orgasmic buzz, combining a penetrative action with an appendage to stimulate the clitoris. At Fe-lines, a British sex shop for women, the top seller is the 7-inch, Rabbit Pearl Jelly - the infamous device that kept Sex in the City girl Charlotte busy in bed for a day. The Rabbit Pearl does everything a penis doesn't - the main shaft swivels around inside you while a vibrating appendage provides concentrated rhythm to those sensitive spots.
One caveat however: vibrators are not meant to be replacement penises, although some men worry that they are. They are a way to extend and heighten pleasure, to reach the spots that conventional masturbation techniques can't - and it's all in the name of getting to know your sexual self even better.
Men can get uppity when presented with a sex toy designed to penetrate, as one woman found out the hard way. 'Jack and I were having a bath together and it was getting really steamy,' admitted my friend Melvina. 'He was really turned on so I decided to bring out my new Dancin' Dolphin vibrator. I hadn't told him about it and wanted it to be a surprise. It's waterproof, silicone coated and has a curved nose to hit the G-spot. I explained all this to Jack but he became hysterical. He said if all I needed was 10 inches of silicone, what was I doing with him? He still hasn't come round to the idea, which is a shame because I've been having some real fun with it in the shower.'
Not all men are averse to some vibrating fun, though, and an increasing number of women are buying sex toys to use with partners. Kathryn Hoyle, director of Sh!, a British sex toy shop for women, reports an increase in sales of strap-on dildos amongst couples. 'Thirty per cent of our strap-on sales are to couples. Men are discovering the pleasure of being penetrated and having their prostate rubbed and aren't worried about being considered gay in the process', Kathryn says.
If male reserve isn't the problem, then noise certainly can be. Jane and her boyfriend, Matt, were keen to use their new vibrator. They'd heard that using one for foreplay could be a mega turn-on. When Matt reached for the vibrator and switched it on, Jane screamed, 'Oh my God. Turn it off! That thing will wake up the entire neighbourhood.' Since then, they've tried everything to keep the sound down, piling under three duvets and even locking themselves in the wardrobe to muffle sound. In the end, though, they gave up. They're now going for the vibrator's distant relative - a vibrating cock-ring that hums like a bee.
Read more: Vibrators: get the buzz
My first exposure to the latter type occurred when my friend Kirsty dropped in from New York. All she could talk about was the new vibrator she'd acquired. 'I've discovered my clitoris,' she crooned, and took the object of her newfound pleasure out of her bag.
I was expecting to see something that resembled a super-sized frankfurter, but instead I was confronted with an object smaller than a remote control, topped by three ball bearings that rotated to a low hum when switched on. 'It's not for insertion,' Kirsty warned. 'You just run over the - um - sensitive parts, and you orgasm in seconds. When I first got it I didn't leave my bedroom for three days.' Fortunately, her new little friend doesn't look like a conventional sex toy, which was an advantage when Kirsty left it out by her hotel bed. 'I would have been so embarrassed if the hotel maid had found something looking like a dismembered penis on my bedside table. Instead she probably thought it was some sort of muscle relaxant.' Right Kirsty.
Some vibrators provide an extra orgasmic buzz, combining a penetrative action with an appendage to stimulate the clitoris. At Fe-lines, a British sex shop for women, the top seller is the 7-inch, Rabbit Pearl Jelly - the infamous device that kept Sex in the City girl Charlotte busy in bed for a day. The Rabbit Pearl does everything a penis doesn't - the main shaft swivels around inside you while a vibrating appendage provides concentrated rhythm to those sensitive spots.
One caveat however: vibrators are not meant to be replacement penises, although some men worry that they are. They are a way to extend and heighten pleasure, to reach the spots that conventional masturbation techniques can't - and it's all in the name of getting to know your sexual self even better.
Men can get uppity when presented with a sex toy designed to penetrate, as one woman found out the hard way. 'Jack and I were having a bath together and it was getting really steamy,' admitted my friend Melvina. 'He was really turned on so I decided to bring out my new Dancin' Dolphin vibrator. I hadn't told him about it and wanted it to be a surprise. It's waterproof, silicone coated and has a curved nose to hit the G-spot. I explained all this to Jack but he became hysterical. He said if all I needed was 10 inches of silicone, what was I doing with him? He still hasn't come round to the idea, which is a shame because I've been having some real fun with it in the shower.'
Not all men are averse to some vibrating fun, though, and an increasing number of women are buying sex toys to use with partners. Kathryn Hoyle, director of Sh!, a British sex toy shop for women, reports an increase in sales of strap-on dildos amongst couples. 'Thirty per cent of our strap-on sales are to couples. Men are discovering the pleasure of being penetrated and having their prostate rubbed and aren't worried about being considered gay in the process', Kathryn says.
If male reserve isn't the problem, then noise certainly can be. Jane and her boyfriend, Matt, were keen to use their new vibrator. They'd heard that using one for foreplay could be a mega turn-on. When Matt reached for the vibrator and switched it on, Jane screamed, 'Oh my God. Turn it off! That thing will wake up the entire neighbourhood.' Since then, they've tried everything to keep the sound down, piling under three duvets and even locking themselves in the wardrobe to muffle sound. In the end, though, they gave up. They're now going for the vibrator's distant relative - a vibrating cock-ring that hums like a bee.
Read more: Vibrators: get the buzz
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